To say losing a part of your body is not tough will be the same as saying losing a loved one is no big deal; no one will regard such chatterbox. Adjusting to living with a disability can be a difficult task but no matter your level of disability, you can still live a fulfilling life. Let us look at some of the tips to leading a fulfilled life.
Accept and living with your disability
Denial is usually the first stage of any unwelcomed development. I am sure you couldn’t believe your leg was gone after the accident; it’s a normal feeling, staying too long in that state can, however, keep you stuck, living without purpose.
The truth remains you can’t go back to your pre-morbid state but If you are ready to heel and surge ahead in life, the first thing you need to do is accept your state.
Accepting the reality makes it easy for you to move forward; you will be able to appreciate the beautiful environment around you again as you did before.
By saying you should accept your disability, I am not in any way suggesting you should not mourn your loss, grieve over your loss, give your body time to heal, but never forget to truly heal. Also the more time you take grieving over your loss, the more the time your healing takes.
Take no advice from people who say you can mourn for five (5) years; if you take a look at those who spent years mourning their loss, they often never truly heal again.
Minimize the impact of your loss
Your disability will alter your life in some way, that is the truth, but you can minimize the impact of the loss. If you have lost your limb, get an assisted walking aid –a powerchair or scooter if you can afford it. There are also limb prosthesis, finely fitting ones that you can live a normal life with.
Also, it is time for you to look inwards. We sometimes have some skills that we do not give much of a thought; if you can’t continue with your old job, see what new things you can do effectively without the lost part, and start doing it.
You also need to be patient with yourself and set a realistic goal, do not do too much all at once on your way back up. Take it easy and move at your new pace.
Join the support group
I know people who loathe this idea, but what I have discovered in such people is that they are still grieving; still annoyed as to why them. Like I said earlier, you have to let go and not be hard on yourself, grieve, but also allow yourself to heal. Supports group can be people living with disability or people who have dedicated their lives in assisting or keeping time with disabled people. Your ability to relate and meet up people shows your body is ready to go for gold again.
Do things that give you happiness
People who live for others are often the happier of the pack. Look into what gives you meaning and purpose and start doing them. If you love volunteering, then start volunteering. I believe our happiness lies in people we show love, it does delight the heart to see you are giving back to the society despite the perceived limitations.
Look into the life of these men
I thought I should remind you that you aren’t the first person to go through this path. I know you are aware, but let us reflect on these people’s lives again
Franklin Roosevelt: Yes, President Franklin Delano Roosevelt, the president who guided the United States of America through World War II. Roosevelt had polio which paralyzed him from the waist down.
He ruled the United States from the wheelchair and that did not stop him from becoming one of the greatest leader America ever had.
Stephen Hawking: Stephen Hawking was on powerchair from the 80’s, he was diagnosed of Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis at age 21 which confined him to a permanent life on the wheelchair yet he still went on to become one of the greatest physicists ever.
Stevie Wonder, Marlee Matlin, Ralph Braun are also some of the people with disability who went on to be the best in their chosen career. My point is, yes, you are living with disability, but if they can make it, you too can.